March 5, 2013

Flash Blog: Innocence


As a romance writer, I deal with a very different kind of innocence than this #BlogFlash2013 image portrays. 

Sexual innocence is an especially complex topic nowadays.  Mixed messages are sent to and about women – a girl who has sex is promiscuous or adventurous; one who doesn't is prudish or virtuous.  

Media addressing this topic of abstaining from premarital sex frequently have the heroine "slip" – have sex – and then "re-virginize", which I find deplorable, as it teaches either that it is impossible to remain a virgin by choice regardless of one's convictions, or that, once one has sex, amends must be made.

5 comments :

  1. I totally agree; the view of women and sex needs to be on an equal footing with men. A healthy attitude to sex is what's needed without the labels. A very interesting post. x

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    1. Thanks, Lizzie!

      In some ways, it's almost worse for men - an 18 year old female virgin is either prudish or virtuous, depending on whom you ask, which gives her a choice of how to approach the situation. An 18 year old male virgin, though? "What a loser." I'm not sure we want to make everyone equally feel that the only acceptable option is to have lots of sex...

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  2. I write erotic fiction under a penname and I happy that my heroines (and heroes) have never had this issue. It is a stereotype that is long-since due for removal.

    That said, I also like to infuse innocence into encounters between experienced couples. It's great to have a man who has known this woman for two years stop and admire a feature that he pays little notice. Those are the scenes and emotions that make me sigh and smile

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    1. That is so true that even two experienced individual face a type of innocence when they first come together that can make the encounter either incredibly intimate or amusingly awkward.

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  3. Very interesting indeed. Yes, sex is portrait in such mixed ways today, it's no wonder so many (especially younger people) are so confused with it.

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